Paused, Not Ending

Many of you may already know that the partner I have been close to for nearly 22 years and I are currently separating, and I am now living on my own. We will be selling our shared property soon, and because of this, my social media presence, online activity, and work will be on hold until everything is finalised and the property is sold.

I understand that hearing about someone separating from their spouse can feel awkward or unsettling, and it certainly comes with challenges — that much is true. However, I see this as a second chance for both my partner Gerry and me.

The truth is that we still care deeply for one another and genuinely want the best for each other. Yet the structure of holding two lives together has become stagnant. When I first met Gerry and who I am now are two very different versions of myself. Back then, I was less assured, broken, and seeking a harbour where my ship could dock for emotional security. Now, even though I am on my own, I am okay. I am no longer afraid or worried. I am grateful that I can finally stand on my own two feet, knowing I will be okay.

That said, I do feel that I have let him down. At the same time, I know in my heart that I cannot pretend the relationship hasn’t taken far more emotional energy to maintain the status quo. Something had to give.

I am sharing this not only to let people know why my social media may be quieter for a while, but also to acknowledge that, despite our separation, I believe that when we both look back, we will be grateful for the difficult decision we made. Nothing will change in terms of the love I have for him. I will always love him deeply — recognising him as someone who walked with me while I was learning to stand on my own two feet, on the journey of finally finding my soul.